Category Archives: emotional hemophiliacs

Missing the Obvious

Why is everyone so surprised that powerful men sexually harass women?

One of the perks that powerful and/or wealthy men have always enjoyed is
that they get to do just about whatever they want. And very high on the list
of things powerful men want to do is have sex with beautiful women–whether those women want to or not.

This has been the custom in virtually every society since, oh, forever.  Now
all of a sudden it’s a real surprise to these men that the rules have changed.

D-u-u-uh. Remember Al Pacino’s buddy in the movie Scarface? He
explained it succinctly. First you get the money (and power) and then you
get the women.

So why is everyone so surprised? Being able to take whatever woman they
want is one of the main reasons men pursue power and wealth in the first
place. How could we not know that?


Sometimes I think Jack Nicholson was right in that old movie.

America, you can’t handle the truth. And if you can’t face it you can’t change it.


U.S. Women Seem Too Emotionally Frail for the Workplace

Apparently American women are entirely too weak and emotionally frail for a workplace with men in it.  To borrow a phrase a lawyer on TV used, too many women seem to be emotional hemophiliacs.  Maybe they’re just too fragile to roll with the ups and downs of every day normal life.  Here’s a tip, ladies.  The constitution guarantees you certain rights.  NOT among them is a right to get through life without being offended or insulted.  It happens.  And when it does, you should stop expecting the rest of us to drop everything and purge whatever little thorn is in your side from society as a whole.

Ladies–learn to take care of yourselves.  The rest of us are busy.  If you can’t handle that simple chore, stay home.  Your delicate sensibilities are a pain in the ass.  Grow up.   Toughen up.

The histrionics of young women reporters having the vapors over men stealing a kiss or making a pass are an embarrassment to our gender. And they cheapen the real trauma suffered by victims of genuine sexual assault.   If their psyches are so delicate that they run screaming into the night when a guy makes a crude joke, then they should stay home.   If, like one of the women accusing Roy Moore, they are still sobbing forty years later because “I thought he was going to rape me” that is just ridiculous.  He didn’t.  Forty years is ample time to get over the “trauma”.

That girl could have just learned the lesson that a young woman needs to watch her step around men and simply have been more careful in the future.  I’m not victim blaming here, just saying that, on the scale of horror, a man putting your hand on his dick is just not that bad.  Icky if ya don’t see it coming, but not horrific.

In the first place, you may not like the truth but the fact of the matter is that forty years ago it was not unheard of in the South for 14 year old girls to be sexually active. It’s sad to know that back then being sexually attractive was for many young rural girls the sole bargaining chip in trying to obtain any measure of social power or standing.

When reporter Katie Tur whined about how accusations of Roy Moore’s sexual harassment were “truly horrific” I wanted to throw up!  No, Ms. Tur, they are icky and gross.  But those acts are definitely not “horrific”.

Would you like to know what “truly horrific” is Ms. Tur? It’s a Mayan woman in rural Florida forced into prostitution. She was found by law enforcement bent over in an agricultural field, skirt pulled up, with a pimp charging two bucks apiece to rape her from behind. The Mayan men were lined up for their turn.  There wasn’t even an arrest, the cops just broke it up.  No “witnesses” would testify.

Would you like to know what “truly horrific” is Ms. Tur? It’s a Mayan woman selling her daughters into prostitution in a hellish trailer with no running water, electricity or toilet.  Yeah, that really happened.  Except those probably weren’t her daughters, more likely they were young girls who’d been trafficked.

Would you like to know what “truly horrific” is?  It’s a guy beating the crap out of a woman or young girl because she said “no”.   It’s a guy sticking a knife in a woman or young girl because she wouldn’t have sex with him.  It’s a guy pistol whipping a female for not “putting out”.

Would you like to know what “truly horrific” is? It’s a twelve year old pregnant girl who doesn’t speak Spanish or English, only Kanjobal.  How is she going to report what happened to her when her obscure dialect is incomprehensible and she is never going to learn a language with which she can communicate how this happened?

Would you like to know what “truly horrific” is?  It’s a woman in her thirties, living in a garbage dump and having a child by her 15 year old son.

At Thanksgiving dinner a few days ago my male friends and I, all native Floridians, talked about how, back in the day, the term “jail bait” was a joke. Young girls would try out their newly discovered sexual “wow” power before they realized that some men, once aroused, won’t take no for an answer.

Roy Moore’s a creep but what he is alleged to have done is not horrific, it’s icky. What is horrific about him is that he will not uphold the Constitution, that he seeks to force his religion on the rest of us whether we happen to be Christian or not.  What is horrific about him is that he wrote that women should not be permitted to run for office–another constitutional right he would choose not to exercise.

If every guy who ever made a pass, stole a kiss, or made a stupid joke about groping is going to have to leave his job and society and don sackcloth and ashes, well, there aren’t going to be many men in public life.

What is truly horrific is that there is going to be a fierce backlash when men tire of women castigating, complaining and constantly moving the acceptable behavior bar.  It will come when men realize that, no matter how they try to figure out what is and is not appropriate, American women (s0me of them at least) are never going to be satisfied and will just keep on bitching.

They’re like the fisherman’s wife in the old tale.  No matter what she demanded of a magic fish, when he gave it to her she just came up with another demand.  Finally the fish realized there was no pleasing her and took back all the advantages, social positions and stuff he gave her and she found herself back in her original state, poor and powerless.

Keep it in mind you emotionally frail women.  If you can’t handle the normal, everyday irritations and indignities which life inevitably heaps on everyone now and then, well…just stay home.  Because otherwise you are going to make women unemployable.  No one’s going to give someone a job if it means everyone else perpetually has to walk on eggshells lest women’s delicate psyches be even slightly bruised.

No one invited women into the workplace, they banged down the door to get access to upper echelon jobs.  They wanted a place at the table.  The second they got it, women started bitching and moaning about how they didn’t like the table.

Ladies, stop the witchhunt for males who may have stolen a kiss or made a pass.   Enough with the “zero tolerance” crap.   How about a sense of proportion and letting the crime fit the punishment.

What ever happened to “innocent until proven guilty”?



All Reality Is Not Virtual

As a committed post-modern dinosaur, I have never tweeted, been on
facebook, LinkdedIn, reddit, or any other social media site. There are no
apps, devices or any other means of “syncing” an information flow in my
world.  My laptop is the whole ball of wax, device-wise.  I know not of
interacting online with groups of people. I just don’t get it.  But, clearly,
time has passed me by and I am officially irrelevant.

Twitter wars and their prominence among “news” stories in the media seem
mystifying.  Reading or watching stories about this phenomenon also seem
pretty funny.  All these characters with their thumbs flying, being egged on
by “news” reports, conjure up an image of a bunch of weenies engaging in
what amounts to electronic slap fights.  Hunched over their tiny devices, do
those engaging in the exercise actually believe it is the equivalent of some
sort of gladiatorial warfare?  I think they do.

Forget it folks, you’re not Russell Crowe, you’re Arnold Stang.

Tip: your busy thumbs are not the full extent of your physical
capabilities. You can get up and walk, talk to live humans in person, see
“real” things with your “real” eyes, feel the sun and wind, experience “real”
life firsthand.  Yeah, it’s kind of uncomfortable, but, probably good for ya.

See, if you’re confining yourself to virtual reality, your non-virtual
musculature and body parts are withering from lack of use and exercise. Your
overly active imaginations, seeing yourselves as some sort of latter day
cultural warriors are a bit over the top.  Okay, delusional.  There is such a
thing as “real” reality y’know.

It all seems hilarious to me, but with a looming downside which is apt to
wind up affecting all of us, including the ones who don’t tweet or who have
thoughts which won’t fit into 140 characters. People seem overly focused
on what’s being said on Twitter. The lazy media, too slack to actually go
out and find real news to report–well except for Richard Engel, Ben Weideman, Ivan Watson, et. al.–can just open up their devices, have a donut
peck out a thin story about what other people are doing in 140 characters,
and think they’ve reported the news.

I actually saw one of the former Fox News blondes, in full raccoon-eye
makeup, say recently, with the most earnest look, that “When the President
tweets, we have to report on it.”  No. You don’t. “News” is not confined to
what comes out of Donald Trump’s thumbs or mouth. Stuff is
happening–important stuff–out in the “real” world. If you work for a news
media organization, you and your colleagues are supposed to be telling the
rest of us about it.

And the putative “news” cable channels are ridiculous. MSNBC runs
non-stop Lock-up programs on the weekends, presumably because “real”
news doesn’t actually happen on weekends. CNN similarly doesn’t do
much live reporting on the weekends.  Possibly it’s because the “reporters”
don’t work weekends. But if you want your media company to be considered a
news organization, then you actually have to report real “news”.  Trust me,
there’s lots going on in the real world on weekends, despite what cable
news channel programmers think.

MSNBC also hired a guy, Brian Williams, who was fired for lying, to do an alleged news show. Why? Somehow his presence on the roster is supposed to increase the network’s credibility as a news network!  How does that work?
Has Mr. Williams dropped his habit of lying?  Sorry, I’m not buying it.

CNN has a morning “news” anchor who’s just a Fox News re-tread yakking
it up five mornings a week. Sorry, I’m not interested in FoxNews’ sloppy
seconds. Don’t hire a media whore and trot her out as a serious journalist,
and expect me to forget what she did before.

The ancillary world of internet trolls is similarly mystifying. Aren’t they
just what we used to call busybodies? Perhaps we should more accurately refer to them as E-busybodies instead of trolls.

The whole notion of spending hours just looking for something to be pissed
off about seems pretty unhealthy. Long ago I decided, when being overly
critical of others, that I’ll try to hold off on that until I’ve perfected me.
There’s a ton of work to be done there, so I’m not holding my breath about
when I can get back to telling everyone else how they should live their lives
and what choices they should make.

Meanwhile, I see that our president is meeting with Vlad Putin this Friday.
What has Vlad been tweeting about lately? I’m all agog with curiosity.

I’m also wondering what future archaelogists will make of the skeleton remains of all the tweeters out there.  “There seems to have been a popular cult which flourished tens of thousands of years ago which focused on those with very large thumbs.  Perhaps that characteristic was considered as beauty.  At this point, we just don’t know but all indications are that genetic thumb mutations became a socially desirable physical attribute at some point in the past.  That culture disappeared and we can only conjecture what might have happened to wipe it out.”


Hillary, Spare Us the Sackcloth and Ashes. Just Go Away!

For heaven’s sake, the election’s over, Hillary lost and still, eight days later, she continues hogging the stage with her needy supporters and forcing the rest of us to be their unwilling grief counselors.  What, exactly, are the protesters   expecting to achieve with all the marching?   We’re not gonna give you a do-over.  Forget it!  You lost!  It’s OVER!  Go home!

These folks’ histrionics have already made it clear that Hillary et. al. are far too
emotionally fragile and needy to be able to handle political power.  Last night’s
pathetic display of Hillary doing her version of sackcloth and ashes/Monty Python penance bit, was the last straw.  The only possible excuses for her giving a public speech now is that she’s simply addicted to attention and deluded enough to imagine that she’s still relevant.

Hillary, et. al.–you guys are weaklings.  Fortunately you lost before we could find out at some less convenient time that you’d fold like a cardboard suitcase at the first sign of adversity.  Just try to imagine these sobbing jellyfish being able to hold their own in talks or negotiations with, oh, say, Vladimir Putin and his KGB colleagues.

What really frosts me is that the rest of us are supposed to sympathize, empathize and otherwise coddle these whiners until they feel comfie enough to re-enter the over-protective bubble  they think is the real world.

Sorry, but, you election losers deserve no pity.  No one feels sorry for you except yourselves.  Go bake cookies or do whatever ya need to and pull yourselves together.  But stop expecting us to watch,  You’re an embarrassment to all of us and our country.  So…shoo!  G’way!  Scat.  Just get the ____ out of our lives wouldja please?

Women, Dems, Hillary; You’re Responsible for Losing, Not Comey!

Why did Hillary lose? Let’s see–when the dems said she was the most qualified candidate ever, the people said “But we don’t like her or trust her”.   When the dems said she’d be the first female president ever, people said “But we don’t like her or trust her”.   When the dems said,  in the primary season, that she has a gazillion unbound delegates’ votes, people said “But we don’t like her or trust her”.   When the dems said “but Bernie can’t win,” people said “But we don’t like her or trust her”. ” People kept saying that to pollsters too.   No one listened.

“What did we do wrong? What did we miss” is the hilarious refrain of the media about the election’s result.  Here’s what you media people did wrong.  You fabricated a narrative and cherry picked your data to make Hillary the “inevitable” candidate.  You, who seemingly live by polls, ignored the ones that all said Bernie could beat Trump and the ones that showed more mixed results for a Hillary/Donald matchup.

Then, much of the media leaned on the pro-Hillary stories so hard that it was obvious even to an independent with no particular political ideology.  Most of the media bound itself inextricably to the story that Hillary was going to be the first female president of the U.S.   Unfortunately for Hillary, the American media has a public approval rating of about 20%.   So, the media–a universally detested demographic–in binding itself to Hillary, bound Hillary to a dead weight–themselves and their inability to report the news, forgoing that responsibility in favor of trying to predict the news.

Why did Hillary lose?  Anybody could tell you in a New York minute.  Not only did Hillary, et. al.  commit to a fabricated narrative, they forgot that white people, including white men, vote too.  I heard one TV media commentator sneer that Trump’s election was just a “white vote”.   There wasn’t any sniping from dems about minorities voting their ethnicity.  And President Obama, who I really like, played both the race  and gender cards, right before the election.  So why would dems, women & Hillary expect other people, especially the males who’ve been pitched overboard by them, not to vote their gender/ethnicity?   This is strategy and tactics 101 and it was beyond the Hillary folks to do the simple math.  It’s not that they couldn’t.  They just wouldn’t.   Because that was not the story they liked.

And the dems, especially the older women, bought into the fabricated narrative–the “Hillary’s inevitable” one.  “Ooh, ooh, tell us the story again.  The one where Hillary gets to be the first female president and most powerful person in the world, and, and… ooh, we just love that story!”  Of course nearly everyone loves the story where a girl finally gets to be president.  But not Hillary.  People don’t like her.  They said so.

And, Hillary cheats.

Hillary lost in part because she and the unsavory people around her cheated blatantly.  Donna Brazile fed her, not only the debate questions, but from who and what vantage point to expect them.  Debbie Wasserman Schultz lost her position as DNC chair for sandbagging Bernie Sanders’ campaign.  Americans don’t like cheaters.  Those acts just reminded everyone who doesn’t cheat how hard it is when you have to compete against someone who does.

And, then there’s Hillary’s disdainful tone in a speech to Wall Street heavy hitters.  Y’know, when she said how, well, she doesn’t actually have much contact with the middle class anymore because of the economic thing.  (I think that means the $66 million she and Bill supposedly sucked out of the system, at least, they did according to Joe Scarbrough.)

Blaming James Comey?  Seriously?  Talk about poor sportsmanship!  Take responsibility for your failure Hillary!  If you want to blame someone, look in the mirror dems/ladies/Hillary!  Suck It Up!   By collapsing in grief over a political setback, you ladies are proving to the world that ya just can’t take the rough and tumble of high level power seeking.  For heaven’s sake, Andrea Mitchell was crying on air the other day!  Mika Brzezinski, on Thursday’s Morning Joe, looked like one of those POWs in enemy propaganda videos–beaten, broken, tortured, shocked, traumatized.   There were supposedly law school students who were too “traumatized” by the election to take an exam.  (Law professor, Jonathon Turley coined a great phrase for those psychologically frail individuals; “emotional hemophiliacs”.)

Here’s the scoop dems & women & Hillary–you bet against the red-blooded American male & all the women (moms, grandmas, sisters, aunts, cousins, colleagues, friends) who love them.  Even though minority men were nominally included in Hillary’s base, the impression I got was that even those guys were treated dismissively by the women; like, “oh them“.  And white males were persona non grata from jump.

Now, reap the whirlwind, if that’s in the cards.  However, I suspect Trump will tone it down, maybe even buckle down and study up on the myriad issues he’s never even thought about before this.  Maybe he’ll work hard, learn compassion and put those big brass ones ones of his to work for our country.  We’re all waiting with bated breath.